The world of motherhood

Everybodyyyy, meet Dory, the baby whom I couldn't wait to meet 5 years ago! :) well, she looks completely different now that she is 4y+

Well, how life has changed completely for me was unimaginable when i wrote my last post. From the pain of childbirth(s), natural births without epidural, to poonamis, to be bitten while breastfeeding, to have my kids pooing on the carpet or on the toilet floor while taking a shower (and many more weird happenings), all of these finally made me realise how challenging it is to care and nurture little humans while simultaneously keeping my sanity at bay. @_@'

As i have mentioned before, D is now 4+... and now, she has a little sister, A. Although none of my kids are babies anymore, and things seem to be easier, I am confidently saying there were lots of moments i had no idea how to parent my kids effectively. 

Why is that?

.....

well... Kids are naturally good detectives. They sort of know how to push your button and they know how to excel in it. How? Well, no one gets better at things without practicing, aye? Unfortunately, they seem to be very diligent of doing trial and errors with us parents on a daily basis. Not only that, they could also smell your uncertainties, fears and sluggishness and try to sway you away from your original intentions.. like what happened tonight. 

Context: it was night time.. the kids were high from watching Pocoyo and having ice cream for dessert. Truly, a BAD combo before bed time. 

Dad: "Bed time girls, give a good night kiss, then off to bed!"

D and A: *run run run, climb up to mummy and daddy's bed to give a kiss.. well, at least D did this while A was trying to get her way out of it. This alone took quite a bit of effort from us parents to get kisses from A*

2 mins later... 

D: "Mummy, I'll give you a body massage" *giving a massage to mum's back, probably thinking that if she does this, Mummy will forget it is bed time already and will let them stay up a weeeee bit longer.*

Me: *enjoying the massage and wishing it's not bed time yet, until... 

A: *Joins in and start patting me on my back which became a drumming competition with D on my back* boohoooo... now my back hurts even more 😢😢😢

Dad: "enough, enough, bed time, go!" *feeling sorry for me*

If only this happens during day time, I'd be more than happy to have them rolling on my back. :D 

Hmmm... what to say... 

Just a thought.

Having kids is truly one of the most confusing thing ever. There are so many sacrifices to be made yet it feels so rewarding. They bring you so much joy that made you feel all of the worry and effort are worth it. They make you tired during the day that you long for the night time to come quickly, yet when they are away you miss them so dearly. On some days you feel like putting them up on Ebay, on some other days they are ever more so precious in your sight. They are human, and so are you.. but being kids, they are very quick to forgive unlike us adults. This made me realise on how much better kids are at giving grace and mercy than us, adults. We learn a lot from their compassion to others, from their curiousity on how things work, from how they get to just stop and enjoy the moment, and from reflecting what they have been exposed to. They are mirrors from God! Many times I was annoyed by the things my kids do which unfortunately they learnt from me. This gives me opportuniy to reflect upon myself and to change for the better as well.. 

Anyway, nighty night! Time to doze off now that my 2 kids are down!

Oh, and have a good Good Friday :)